Viagra tablet Over the last few months I have been helping several clients prepare for interviews. Viagra tablet Some have now landed in new jobs, viagra tablet despite the economy and their fears borne of long-term unemployment. Viagra tablet In all cases, viagra tablet preparing for the interview required what my husband (one of my early victims who was successful in landing a new job) calls torture. It’s a painful process of preparing and practicing – the latter by being subjected to unrelenting grilling.
Viagra tablet Though I try to be kind through this process, viagra tablet it is far more important that I be honest. Viagra tablet If the client does not hear my critique and is thus able to adjust the way she explains her experience, viagra tablet then it is likely she will not hear from the interviewer – read: get the job. Viagra tablet It is not fun or pleasant to give or receive critical feedback; however, viagra tablet most people tell me that our sessions made them feel more confident and prepared for any questions that the interviewers threw at them.
Viagra tablet Previously I shared PASS, viagra tablet my proposed mnemonic for successful interviews: Preparation, viagra tablet Authenticity, viagra tablet STAR stories and Sustained Energy and Presence. To these I would now like to add Five Essential Skills:
- Demonstrating Confidence
- Making a powerful connection
- Asking questions that get meaningful answers
Viagra tablet When I started writing this blog I thought I would tackle each of these topics briefly. I found myself writing several paragraphs on each topic and sensing that there was still much to cover. Viagra tablet As a result, viagra tablet I will present one today and the rest in subsequent blog posts.
Viagra tablet The first skill, viagra tablet Demonstrating Confidence, viagra tablet does not mean acting with arrogance or superiority. In particular, viagra tablet a confident job candidate will be authentic and respectful in all interactions. Viagra tablet The interview begins when you answer the phone, viagra tablet first step into the building, viagra tablet drive into the parking lot or even when you deal with someone making arrangements for your visit. I have heard many stories of candidates who were rejected because of their lack of respect for the receptionist, viagra tablet assistant or intern who helped them. Just because they are not on the list, viagra tablet does not mean they are not interviewing you.
Viagra tablet Your grooming and dress, viagra tablet your posture and handshake, viagra tablet and your demeanor and the tone of your voice demonstrate confidence. Let’s look at each of these separately.
Viagra tablet Dress and Grooming: You should dress in a way that you feel comfortable and that helps you show you fit in. Even in the age of business casual it is still appropriate to wear a suit to an interview. For men this is easy, viagra tablet and the only guidance is that the tie should not be outlandish. Viagra tablet Stay away from the hula girl tie you bought on vacation. Viagra tablet For women, viagra tablet either a skirt (of appropriate length) or pantsuit in a neutral tone is terrific, viagra tablet paired with a contrasting blouse or sweater. Your make up and hair should be appropriate for the time of day. Viagra tablet Do not overdo the jewelry or perfume, viagra tablet and if you can’t walk in those high pumps, viagra tablet then don’t wear them.
Viagra tablet Posture and Handshake: Remember when your mother told you not to slouch? Standing and sitting up straight not only helps you be perceived as confident, viagra tablet but it also helps you project your voice and helps you maintain your energy. Viagra tablet When you slouch your voice naturally softens and you look uncomfortable, viagra tablet defeated and, viagra tablet probably, viagra tablet out of place. Viagra tablet When you are seated, viagra tablet lean slightly forward, viagra tablet and use your hands for emphasis rather than keep them stiffly at your sides. And definitely, viagra tablet do not cross your arms – a defensive posture. Viagra tablet When you first meet someone, viagra tablet offer your hand with a firm, viagra tablet but not an exaggerated grip. Think about how you might hold a golf club or a tennis racket: you don’t want to let it go, viagra tablet but holding it too tight will cause all your shots to go awry or give you elbow pain.
Viagra tablet Demeanor: A self-assured person does not scowl or look fearful. Instead, viagra tablet a confident person is able to smile when greeting others and during a conversation. Now, viagra tablet that does not mean that you should fake your smile. That would not be authentic; instead, viagra tablet relax and your facial muscles will relax. If you can, viagra tablet take a few deep, viagra tablet relaxing breaths before you walk into the interview or when you have a bathroom break. When you speak with someone, viagra tablet hold their gaze and follow their eyes. This will help you listen as well. Viagra tablet Nod slightly to indicate you are listening but do not exaggerate.
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Viagra tablet Practice is the best way to learn how you present yourself. Viagra tablet Use a camera to record your behavior in a mock interview or ask a coach or trusted friend to help you. Viagra tablet (If you’d like my help preparing for interviews, viagra tablet I have a special offer of three sessions)
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